i’ve been thinking that there needs to be an AceFest, like the LGBTFest on LJ. there’s been an Asexy Valentines Fest, but it focused solely on romantic asexuals, no grey-As or demis or aros. i thought i’d throw the idea over here and see if anyone’s interested?

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For me, being grey-asexual is a collection of things. I don’t have strong sex drive, I don’t have strong sexual attraction to people. I do have it sometimes, but, it’s not a need, and, I don’t really understand when people say that the drive for sex frustrates them and it’s something they can’t ignore, because, for me if I ignore it for a time, it goes away. Also, I’m autistic so, working out social cues, and touch, can be uncomfortable and stressful things for me.

For me, sex is something that only works in particular situations, with particular people… I’m not demi, it’s not about how close I am with someone (I also have a hard time with romance, so, actually, it might be more easy for me if it’s a friend but not a romantic relationship, I think), but, it’s about if that person can do things in a way that makes it less stressful for me.

A lot of talk about how to work out consent, goes the opposite way for me because I become very stressed by working out “if I want something”. So, people who are super fixed on talking about consent, doesn’t work for me I think. So, stuff is difficult and, mostly I avoid it.