Lately it seems like most of the activity on this blog is people asking me to tell them how they should identify. I am not entirely comfortable with that and am going to stop answer those kinds of questions for awhile.
Would it be helpful if I posted a list of terms, definitions, and such? There may have been one posted before, but I could make a page with a permanent link if people are interested.
I was thinking it would be nice to compile a list of fictional asexual-spectrum or likely ace-spectrum characters who are female or non-binary. I am going to stress here that I am not trying to erase or leave out male aces, demis and graces, and that later I will make a more complete list of…
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The current draft is here and will be updated as I make changes.
If anyone has any comments, criticism, things that need to be added, things that don’t seem important, please let me know!
It’s still a rough draft, so it definitely needs some work, especially in the challenges section.
Also, if you see anything problematic please don’t hesitate to call me out on it - I can take the criticism, and I really want this to be as informative and unproblematic as possible.
It said to draw a line, but I think the line looks very strange.
The gender identity is supposed to be not there but closer to “woman” than anything else, because I lack gender identity, but the world interacts with me as if I am a woman and I’m ok with that.
I’m not really sure how to do an image description for this. Suggestions?
I wanted to share a resource with you guys that has been invaluable for me with figuring out my sexuality, since I haven’t seen anything about it recently in the tags.
Demi Grace is a forum for people who identify as demisexual, grey-a, demiromantic, grey-aromantic, or elsewhere in the grey areas, and allies. My understanding is that there have been some problems in the past for people who identify as demi or grey-a on AVEN, so this forum was started to make a safe place for us. I don’t know whether that’s still a problem, but I can tell you that I’ve found Demi Grace to be a great place to talk over some of the stuff going on in my life, and there have been some very interesting discussions there. Unfortunately, it’s not a very active forum, so I would love to see more people join.
-Natalie
I won’t give the long looooong story about the years I spent believing I was straight, just “damaged” or sterilized or stupid.
Instead, let’s look at what happened when I discovered demisexuality AND grey-asexuality. I confided in my beloved that I found something that made such perfect sense, why I never lusted for him until we were close for many, many months, and yet still without notice the feelings and the very experience of understanding feeling sexual would still slip and ebb, returning me to my primordially asexual state.
I told him all of this, and he smiled and said “That makes sense! I always thought you might be a little different.”
I identify as both demi and grey-A because of the aforementioned patterns in my attraction. When I’m feeling very demi… he loves how intensely I am attracted to him.
Now he is so sensitive to my boundaries, and he knows when I’m feeling “grey” not to confound me with advances. I have never made more sense to myself, or my lovers, and the confidence in myself I’ve had since discovering what I really am has been unshakable.
When I see drama on the tags, all I have to do is remember how utterly things suddenly CLICKED when I discovered my sexuality was a thing, and that other people experienced it too. I hope you all remember that as well, no matter what stupid shit people have to say about you.
I couldn’t think of anything unique or interesting to post this weekend, sorry. This blog has a lot of followers, though, so I thought I could try posting a discussion question. I know discussions on tumblr don’t work as well as on other sites, but reblogging works ok.
So, onto the question! Do you identify as queer based on your gray-a/demi identity? What about GSM (“gender and/or sexual minority” in this case sexual minority)?
I personally identify as queer for other reasons and being gray-a is part of my GSM identity, but not my queer one.
Hi everyone!
I want to do a post of some sort this weekend, but I don’t really know what you all are interested in seeing. If you want to send in some topics, questions, or your own thoughts on gray-a/demi issues, please do!
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