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Reblogging for my asexual bestie!
Recently I thought I might be asexual but I have a question... What if I think people are attractive or sexy or whatever but the idea of actually having sex revolts me? Am I asexual, or what?
AnonymousYou sound like you might be repulsed. It’s possible to experience sex repulsion for a person of any sexual orientation. If you experience sexual attraction, you are probably not asexual, though you might be gray-A or demi, depending on how the sexual attraction occurs.
I'm sure this is just like a lot of other questions you receive, but having a sensual attraction, and not minding sex, but not particularly looking to have sex is considered gray-a, right? For example, to me sex is basically just an intense cuddle taken to another level. I don't get any sexual satisfaction out of it and wouldn't be the one to suggest it, but I don't mind it and it's fun on occasion. I was also wondering if there was a more specific term for this? Thanks for reading this btw =)
AnonymousSince behavior is not attraction, it is completely possible to enjoy sex and be asexual. I suppose if you want a specific term for someone who does not experience sexual attraction but does not mind sex, that term would be an indifferent asexual, or an asexual who is indifferent to sex.
Gray asexuality describes people who experience something akin to sexual attraction that they identify as a kind of sexual attraction.
what would you say about someone who doesn't experience sexual attraction (based on looks/personality/whatever), but enjoys having sex and isn't repulsed by it? would that person be demi or ace?
A demisexual person does have circumstances under which they do experience sexual attraction. A person who doesn’t experience sexual attraction, regardless of how much they enjoy sex, is still asexual. The creator of this blog (me) is an asexual person who enjoys several kinds of sexual activity. Sex repulsion is not inherent to asexuality, and a person who experiences any frequency of sexual attraction can be sex-repulsed.
Asexuality Identity and Experiences Survey - Call for Ace participants
Julia Prims, of the University Of Colorado Boulder, is conducting research into asexuality for their honors thesis:
“This study is intended to examine the cultural dismissal of asexuality and self-esteem, depression, and self-concept in asexually identified individuals. You are being asked to participate in this study because you either identify as asexual or have ties to the asexual community. You will be one of 500 people to participate in this study.
During the course of this study, you will be asked to fill out a questionnaire which will ask you various questions about your identity and experiences as an asexual. If you do not identify as asexual, you will be asked to skip some questions. You will then complete three psychological surveys measuring depression, self-esteem, and self-concept. This study should take approximately 20-45 minutes.”
If you identify as asexual, demisexual, grey-a, or as anywhere on the asexual spectrum, please consider taking part in this quick and easy survey.
The plan is to publish the paper in a scientific journal and, potentially, present it at conferences.
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I identify as queer mostly for my gender/gender presentation; although I attribute it somewhat to my sexuality. I don't often use "queer" to identify myself, however, but it is an easy catchall term if I just want to make a quick reference- as opposed to explaining my identifications.
AnonymousThanks for sharing!
Could you possibly stop using the inverted triangle? It's pretty directly tied into queer history and since demisexuality doesn't necessarily overlap with queer identities it's appropriative and incredibly offensive.
AnonymousAVEN has been using the inverted white-to-black gradient triangle for more than a decade, and when it was first introduced it was flatter rather than equilateral. An explanation of its parts is on AVENwiki. What the triangle depicts is an extension of the Kinsey scale in a dimension for intensity. This symbol developed independently of the pink triangle and every other triangle symbol that is used by other communities. The only manner in which the AVEN triangle has changed over the past decade is that it has become equilateral.
So no, we will not stop using an inverted triangle.
Additionally, this blog does not work to invalidate any person’s decision to identify as queer based on their asexuality or demisexuality.
As the description of this blog is “A place for discussion of gray asexuality by gray asexual people” and I no longer identify as gray, I would like actual gray asexual and demi people to take over this blog.
Please send an askbox message or Fan Mail to metapianycist if interested. Please signal boost this post, if you can.
If you are romantically bisexual but would only have sexual relations with one sex and only if you knew them for some time, really loved them etc, is this grey-asexuality? I'm really unsure as I otherwise identify as asexual except for in very special situations.
AnonymousThat you would have sexual activity with someone is only a description of behavior, and not a description of attraction. What would your reasons be for having sex? If they include sexual attraction to the person, or some sexual desire akin to it, you might be gray. You might be demisexual, if when you experience sexual attraction, it is with duration and intensity regarded as conventional. You might even be both gray and demi (neither is a category of the other). You’ve told me about your probable behavior, but not about your mental states. Only you can decide if you are gray-asexual, demisexual or both.
As for myself, I am neither gray nor demi, and I have enjoyed and do enjoy some sexual activities. My reasons for enjoying those things don’t include anything akin to sexual attraction, so I identify as asexual without further descriptors.
Where do you fall on the Kinsey scale? 0=Exclusively heterosexual, 1-5=Range of bisexuality, 6=Exclusively homosexual, X=Asexual, n/a=Other (specify)
AnonymousThe Kinsey scale doesn’t adequately account for the existence of trans* people, so I cannot really say what counts as “same-sex” sexual attraction for me. And I’m not entirely certain whether or not how I experience sexual desires when I have them fit the bill for what is considered sexual attraction. I call myself mostly-gay, but the “gay” part of that is a reference to sensual attraction, not sexual or romantic attraction. I’m nonromantic.
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