If we want our community to be inclusive, you need to listen to our points of view.
There is no homogenous experiences in the ace community. What aces of colour deal with is not the same as what white aces deal with.
Asexuality does not exist in a vacuum, and must be examined and talked about in a critical fashion.
You must understand that there are groups of people who have had asexuality (different than our understanding of it but still the same word) forced on them or have been hypersexualized beyond compare and cannot access asexual spaces in the same way due to racism.
Asexuality (and things like it) have an old history in certain groups, and it is vital to understand that.
You can’t approach the experiences of aces of colour from a white perspective; you can’t. Because you won’t understand.
Our community is multicultural, and it is important that our discourse reflects it.
I’m reminded of what I was talking about at the International Asexuality Conference at the Asexuality and Ethnicity panel I was asked to be apart of: “You cannot parse my asexuality from my race. They are not separate. You cannot fully understand my experiences if you break them apart.”
We are apart of this community
If asexuality discourse does not actively include aces of colour or have our voices dominate in discussions of our experiences with racism and the impact it has had on our asexuality, then it will be inaccurate.
on top of this, please realize that there is no homogeneous POC experience. an African American ace will have difference experiences from an Asian American, a Latin@ American or a Native American ace, etc etc.
on top of this, non-white aces who are not POC (because POC is NOT an all-encompassing term for “anyone who isn’t white”, it refers to Americans who are not white) will also have their own unique experiences with asexuality.
so yes, white aces, please do listen to aces of color, but don’t stop there. listen to ALL aces of all cultures, ethnic groups and nationalities. the asexual community does not revolve around colonial American notions of whiteness vs color. do not forget about aces who identify as neither “white” nor “POC”.