I’m gonna say, as someone raised Jewish (Reform), that my experience in a Judeo-Christian environment has not been antagonistic in any way. (Despite no longer believing, I work in a Sunday school and am closely related to a Rabbi). Me being queer has never been a problem. While there is pressure to have kids, it doesn’t feel like a push from the religion side of things. I want them anyway, but my parents want me to have kids because they know I want them and because they want grandchildren. Adopting is also be totally fine.
Other branches of Judaism are not the same, but I thought I would share my experience too.
Obviously, it really depends on what you grew up around or with. Even within the same basic religion, different branches have different ideas. In fact, different communities of people within the same branch can vary hugely. So it doesn’t just depend on the religion, but the experience the person has with it.
First off, I am pretty sure that not EVERY RELIGION views everything but monogamous, heterosexual sexual relations as a sin.
Secondly, I doubt you can generalize what asexuals feel in regards to religion and secular society. People have a huge variety of experiences and to assume that everyone who shares a sexuality shares the same feelings about religion is ignorant.
I mean, I’d guess that asexual people run the gamut on spirituality and religion as much as any other group.
I made a thing
thank god someone made this! :D great xD
Reblogging for my asexual bestie!
Lately it seems like most of the activity on this blog is people asking me to tell them how they should identify. I am not entirely comfortable with that and am going to stop answer those kinds of questions for awhile.
Would it be helpful if I posted a list of terms, definitions, and such? There may have been one posted before, but I could make a page with a permanent link if people are interested.
I really don’t know. I do think that you can be sexually attracted to people without wanting sex, but I can’t really tell you what you are feeling and I’m not really sure from your message if you experience sexual attraction. It sort of sounds like you do, but… Maybe it would be best of you looked up some definitions and went with what feels right for you.
Basically, I can’t tell you how to identify in terms of sexuality. But in general I really don’t feel comfortable giving answers to people asking me to tell them how to identify, though I have been doing so.
*continued* the desire most people have, am I gray-asexual or is there a different term for when the romantic feelings are only for guys?
Hi anon! You sound like you are asexual, rather than gray-a. People who are asexual can still have any sort of romantic attraction (and can be aromantic, just as sexual people can be aromantic), and to me it sounds like you are under the romantic asexual umbrella. I am guessing that if you self-identified as gay before that you would be homoromantic?
And this is my usual disclaimer that I can’t really decide for you how you should identify. While I would class your feelings as homoromantic asexual, you have to go with what feels right for you.
I’m sorry for this taking so long (especially because I managed to respond quickly for once with your prior question). If you have no sexual attraction at all, I’d say you’re asexual.