I define as gay and I watch porn and masturbate and I fantasize about men but I don't want to have sex because I am uncomfortable with my penis size so when I think of actually having sex it is a not appealling to me could I be Gray-Asexual?
Gray-asexuality is about sexual attraction. Are you more than seldom sexually attracted to people?
Sexual attraction and wanting or not wanting to actually have sex are different. There are sexual people who prefer not to have sex. There are gray-a and asexual people who like it. So think about your sexual attraction to figure out the answer.
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So I have a girlfriend who identifies as being grey A. There are times I want to cuddle and kiss and such. Does being grey A extend to such activities or just sex? Because I don't want to push her into doing something she isn't comfortable with.Help?
Gray A has to do with sexual attraction, not what activities people are comfortable with.
Ask her what she is comfortable with. She is the only one who knows that.
I'm not exactly sure where or if I even fall on the asexuality scale. It had just occurred to me that the reason I'm uncomfortable with certain physical intimacy sometime is that I might be asexual. I know I'm panromantic and can see myself in a relationship with any type of person, but I don't find the thought of me having sex appealing. Pleasing them cuddling, kissing, ect. with my special person, yes. But, them pleasing me, I'm not so sure. Maybe if I trusted them and was comfortable with it.
I feel like this is all I have been saying lately, but (gray)asexuality is about sexual attraction. It is not about what you do or don’t do behaviorally, your hormonal sex drive, or whether or not you are comfortable having sex. Plenty of people who regularly experience sexual attraction are celibate, have low sex drives (especially due to hormonal and medication factors), or are uncomfortable about having sex. So I will say it again:
ASEXUALITY AND GRAY-ASEXUALITY ARE ABOUT A LACK OF SEXUAL ATTRACTION.
Since gray As represent the space in between sexuality and asexuality - I was wondering about those of us who have sex, but do it just to please their partners - we might have sex to get physical comfort, intimacy, affection, et cetera- but it's never the sex itself that fully satisfies or motivates us. Anyone else relate to this ?
I find myself sexually attracted to people, less often than most but somewhat often. I have a pretty regular sex drive and pleasure myself but I'm pretty sure I don't have actual desire to have sex with anyone. I think if I were in a long term relationship I might make an exception. But I'm not sure if it's because I am gray ace or is not wanting to be touched by other people.
Gray asexuality and asexuality in general are about sexual attraction not whether or not you are like “I actively want to have sex with people!”
Hi I'm a bit confused on what I should call myself. I have zero sex drive and minimum romantic feelings with either gender (but yeah I can appreciate that some people are pretty dang hot or ascetically pleasing) but I really want to have biological children. My friend says that would mean I'm probably more of a demisexual but I don't think I'm able to really get to the point of bonding with people so much i would want to do anything with them. I'm just wondering if wanting children plays a role.
Wanting children has nothing to do with sexual attraction.
okay so when I was in high school I had a boyfriends. and we were pretty normal yanno? doing normal bf and gf stuff, we had sex quite often and I did enjoy it. sex drive and attraction both present in this relationship. but then of course, we had a pregnancy scare and my desire for sex went GOODBYE I didn’t need it anymore, nothing about sex excited me anymore and we stopped entirely, which I think led to the initial break up. but the problem now (3 years later) I still have no attraction to almost anyone and have no drive. I do masterbate but, idk I’m so confused (I’m 20)
I am not a counselor and I don’t know any more about you than this post, so I really don’t know what to tell you. All I can say is that sexuality is not always the same throughout the lifetime.
I identify as gray-asexual for the most part, but I'm wondering if I am a demisexual or not. I feel attraction towards anyone that I have a romantic feeling about but only for a short while. Once I've been in a relationship for a while and that happy, brief time when a romance is brand new is over, the attraction fades away too, even if I'm still romantically involved with my partner. Amy a demisexual?
I cannot tell you that. Go to AVEN’s wiki page on demisexuality and see if you feel like the description feels right to you.
At what age "should" I start to feel sexual about others/want to be in a relationship?
There is no answer to that question