26th September, 2014

26th September, 2014

Anonymous asks:

I've been trying to understand my sexual identity and so: I have sexual attraction for people sometimes but not all the time i.e. someone random in public. But I have no desire to have sex with anyone. But the feelings seem sexual. Is this gray-a?

"Yes you could totally be gray-ace!! You could be so many things!! The thing about identity labels is you get to pick!!!!!" —Myself

Calling yourself gray a might be a good way to communicate that your identity has some complexities but it’s whatever feels comfortable to you! 

<3 Shapes

26th September, 2014

Anonymous asks:

I get aroused by people and sometimes think "I might want to have sex with them" and have fantasies, but I don't feel that strong pull, and everything I think is conscious. Also, I've never imagined "undressing them"; my fantasies are a lot more broad and not extremely sexual in nature. Currently, the one I have now is me masturbating someone because they can't do it themselves. Could I be gray-ace?

Yes you could totally be gray-ace!! You could be so many things!! The thing about identity labels is you get to pick!!!!! You get to decide!!! YOU, friend!!!!!

  • Getting aroused by people doesn’t mean you can’t ID as ace
  • Wanting to have sex with someone doesn’t mean you can’t ID as ace
  • Having fantasies that are sexual in nature doesn’t mean you can’t ID as ace
  • !!!!!!!!!!!!!

—Shapes!!!!

21st September, 2014

Anonymous asks:

hey! i'd just like to ask if grey-asexuality is where you sometimes feel sexual attraction, but sometimes don't? if not, what is the term for that??

Hi friend! I’m going to take a wild stab and say that non-asexual people/ allosexual people (probably) sometimes experience sexual attraction and sometimes don’t? But I feel like I’ve heard that many allosexual people (and some aces too!) are always sexually attracted to their partner or a celebrity or something even though they probably don’t think about that person all the time and probably are not aroused all the time and might not want to have sex with them all the time.

Someone might choose to identify as Gray Asexual if they felt like they were experiencing sexual attraction so infrequently that they almost identified with the idea of asexuality but not quite. So what you described could totally be a reason to ID as Gray-A but it’s up to each person to decide if a identity label is right for them or useful to them. 

Allosexual friends plz feel free to confirm or deny my speculations.

—Shapes

18th September, 2014

Anonymous asks:

Hi! I'm really confused with my sexuality. Are gray asexuals attracted to both boys and girls? Sorry if this is a stupid question I'm new

Some are, some aren’t. Have you checked out AVEN? It’s great resource if you’re not sure where to begin.

Gray asexuality has more to do with the presence, or lack thereof, of attraction and not the ‘direction’ of the attraction. So there are homosexual gray aces and hetero gray aces and there are heterosexual biromantic gray aces. There’s a large variety.

-Not a Can of Soup

17th September, 2014

genderpunk-dragon:

bandersnatchery:

"Vancouver School Board Introduces Gender-Neutral Pronouns"

"Students and teachers in Vancouver can now use the gender-neutral pronouns "xe," "xem," and "xyr." The move is designed to accommodate students for whom "he" and "she" does not fit or is deemed inappropriate…
"The newly coined pronouns — xe, xem, and xyr — are pronounced to rhyme with the genderless plurals "they," "them," and "their," and all starting with the "z" sound. So phonetically speaking, they’re pronounced "zey, "zem", and "zare.""

(Source: io9)
Click here to read the full article.

the article doesn’t do the issue justice.
the issue regarded policy change, where the vancouver school board’s (VSB) LGBTQ+ advisory committee re-wrote existing policy to protect staff and students falling on the queer and trans spectrums. 
the policy revision includes
-they/them/their and non-traditional pronouns being recognized by the school system
-required used of preferred names and pronouns by all staff and students
-preferred names/pronouns on all school records
-gender-accesible washrooms and change rooms available to those who require them
-disciplinary action taken against those who act in a discriminatory or hateful manner towards students, staff, and families falling on the queer and trans spectrums
—————-
the consultation was the longest ever done by the VSB, with over 120 speakers spread across 3 meetings. 
the process also resulting in two school board trustees being ejected form their party’s caucus, due their discriminatory actions and arguments. 
these are links to stories by vancouver media about the issue
CBC
metro news
global BC
huffington post

This is the first time I&#8217;ve seen the immediate explanation of how to pronounce nonbinary/genderless/neutral pronouns!!!!!!!!!!

genderpunk-dragon:

bandersnatchery:

"Vancouver School Board Introduces Gender-Neutral Pronouns"

"Students and teachers in Vancouver can now use the gender-neutral pronouns "xe," "xem," and "xyr." The move is designed to accommodate students for whom "he" and "she" does not fit or is deemed inappropriate…

"The newly coined pronouns — xe, xem, and xyr — are pronounced to rhyme with the genderless plurals "they," "them," and "their," and all starting with the "z" sound. So phonetically speaking, they’re pronounced "zey, "zem", and "zare.""

(Source: io9)

Click here to read the full article.

the article doesn’t do the issue justice.

the issue regarded policy change, where the vancouver school board’s (VSB) LGBTQ+ advisory committee re-wrote existing policy to protect staff and students falling on the queer and trans spectrums. 

the policy revision includes

-they/them/their and non-traditional pronouns being recognized by the school system

-required used of preferred names and pronouns by all staff and students

-preferred names/pronouns on all school records

-gender-accesible washrooms and change rooms available to those who require them

-disciplinary action taken against those who act in a discriminatory or hateful manner towards students, staff, and families falling on the queer and trans spectrums

—————-

the consultation was the longest ever done by the VSB, with over 120 speakers spread across 3 meetings. 

the process also resulting in two school board trustees being ejected form their party’s caucus, due their discriminatory actions and arguments. 

these are links to stories by vancouver media about the issue

CBC

metro news

global BC

huffington post

This is the first time I’ve seen the immediate explanation of how to pronounce nonbinary/genderless/neutral pronouns!!!!!!!!!!

(via Neutrois Nonsense)

15th September, 2014

Anonymous asks:

Hello! Um, I just had a question about grey-a, if a person is grey-a can they like still be sexually attracted to people sometimes but other times be not sexually attracted? And if I rp smut in my just basic rps, does that make me not ace? I don't really do it as a way to get off sometimes I just do it because the other person likes it or I just think of it as a thing, I don't know. I'm so confused and I need help.

rp smut does not have anything to do with your sexuality. If I roleplay as a tree, that does not mean I identify as treekin. (Disclaimer: I have never rp as a tree. Or really anything that doesn’t typically speak.)

The whole point of grey a is not being completely asexual or to feel like asexuality is not a totally accurate descriptor. You, friend, need to peruse AVEN. Research is your friend and AVEN is the beginning of the road. And hey, maybe it’ll lead to a life changing epiphany. Or maybe you’ll just be better educated. Either way, you can’t lose!

-Not a Can of Soup