17th September, 2014

genderpunk-dragon:

bandersnatchery:

"Vancouver School Board Introduces Gender-Neutral Pronouns"

"Students and teachers in Vancouver can now use the gender-neutral pronouns "xe," "xem," and "xyr." The move is designed to accommodate students for whom "he" and "she" does not fit or is deemed inappropriate…
"The newly coined pronouns — xe, xem, and xyr — are pronounced to rhyme with the genderless plurals "they," "them," and "their," and all starting with the "z" sound. So phonetically speaking, they’re pronounced "zey, "zem", and "zare.""

(Source: io9)
Click here to read the full article.

the article doesn’t do the issue justice.
the issue regarded policy change, where the vancouver school board’s (VSB) LGBTQ+ advisory committee re-wrote existing policy to protect staff and students falling on the queer and trans spectrums. 
the policy revision includes
-they/them/their and non-traditional pronouns being recognized by the school system
-required used of preferred names and pronouns by all staff and students
-preferred names/pronouns on all school records
-gender-accesible washrooms and change rooms available to those who require them
-disciplinary action taken against those who act in a discriminatory or hateful manner towards students, staff, and families falling on the queer and trans spectrums
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the consultation was the longest ever done by the VSB, with over 120 speakers spread across 3 meetings. 
the process also resulting in two school board trustees being ejected form their party’s caucus, due their discriminatory actions and arguments. 
these are links to stories by vancouver media about the issue
CBC
metro news
global BC
huffington post

This is the first time I’ve seen the immediate explanation of how to pronounce nonbinary/genderless/neutral pronouns!!!!!!!!!!

genderpunk-dragon:

bandersnatchery:

"Vancouver School Board Introduces Gender-Neutral Pronouns"

"Students and teachers in Vancouver can now use the gender-neutral pronouns "xe," "xem," and "xyr." The move is designed to accommodate students for whom "he" and "she" does not fit or is deemed inappropriate…

"The newly coined pronouns — xe, xem, and xyr — are pronounced to rhyme with the genderless plurals "they," "them," and "their," and all starting with the "z" sound. So phonetically speaking, they’re pronounced "zey, "zem", and "zare.""

(Source: io9)

Click here to read the full article.

the article doesn’t do the issue justice.

the issue regarded policy change, where the vancouver school board’s (VSB) LGBTQ+ advisory committee re-wrote existing policy to protect staff and students falling on the queer and trans spectrums. 

the policy revision includes

-they/them/their and non-traditional pronouns being recognized by the school system

-required used of preferred names and pronouns by all staff and students

-preferred names/pronouns on all school records

-gender-accesible washrooms and change rooms available to those who require them

-disciplinary action taken against those who act in a discriminatory or hateful manner towards students, staff, and families falling on the queer and trans spectrums

—————-

the consultation was the longest ever done by the VSB, with over 120 speakers spread across 3 meetings. 

the process also resulting in two school board trustees being ejected form their party’s caucus, due their discriminatory actions and arguments. 

these are links to stories by vancouver media about the issue

CBC

metro news

global BC

huffington post

This is the first time I’ve seen the immediate explanation of how to pronounce nonbinary/genderless/neutral pronouns!!!!!!!!!!

(via Neutrois Nonsense)

15th September, 2014

Anonymous asks:

Hello! Um, I just had a question about grey-a, if a person is grey-a can they like still be sexually attracted to people sometimes but other times be not sexually attracted? And if I rp smut in my just basic rps, does that make me not ace? I don't really do it as a way to get off sometimes I just do it because the other person likes it or I just think of it as a thing, I don't know. I'm so confused and I need help.

rp smut does not have anything to do with your sexuality. If I roleplay as a tree, that does not mean I identify as treekin. (Disclaimer: I have never rp as a tree. Or really anything that doesn’t typically speak.)

The whole point of grey a is not being completely asexual or to feel like asexuality is not a totally accurate descriptor. You, friend, need to peruse AVEN. Research is your friend and AVEN is the beginning of the road. And hey, maybe it’ll lead to a life changing epiphany. Or maybe you’ll just be better educated. Either way, you can’t lose!

-Not a Can of Soup

15th September, 2014

Anonymous asks:

I think I have been doubting it because the only people I have that I can talk to are very "you can only be gay, bisexual, or straight!". I guess their opinions are kind of affecting me. I haven't told them about grey-a in fear that they'll chastise me for it. Though it isn't their business, they're still my close friends.

Yeah it’s tough. People aren’t always open to the idea of asexuality, much less a grey area. Basically, whether you tell people about it or not, you need to learn to have faith in your self-perception and don’t let other people distort that. You’ll be okay, even if you never come out to them.

-Not a Can of Soup

15th September, 2014

Anonymous asks:

For a while I have identified as Gray-A but just recently I have been doubting that it actually exists. Am I reading too far into it? I really found a home in Gray-A.

Well, why have you been doubting it exists? Sexuality is a spectrum in many ways, and people who do not identify strongly as asexual but don’t consider themselves allosexual fall in the middle, the gray area. Gray asexuality is a real identity.

-Not a Can of Soup

10th September, 2014

Anonymous asks:

I find that I dislike sex, but being in a relationship for 3 years now I'm opening up to it more, the want is not strong but its there, would i be gray sexual or am i not asexual at all?

Well, I think you should look at demisexuality and lithosexuality to see if either of those describes you. If you have more questions, I’m here. :)

-Not a Can of Soup

9th September, 2014

the42towels asks:

How does one make a zine? Or, alternatively, do you mind explaining your particular zine process? I'm interested in making my own

delinquentunicorn:

Y’all don’t even know how happy I am when I get this question.

Okay, so, if anyone doesn’t already know, a zine is a wish your heart makes magazine/pamphlet/book-type creation. It’s usually self-published/published small-scale, and either sold, given away, traded, given to a distributor, or even just made for yourself. Because of the way they don’t require any outside permission or input to be made, they can and are made about pretty much anything under the sun. Poetry, diaries, art, collage, fiction, reviews, propaganda, advice, etc, etc forever. 

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Sooo, given the individuality of zinemaking, there are about ten million ways (approximately) to make them. You can probably find tutorials online that go into detail with sewing, gluing, stapling, or whatever.

My personal favorite zine process is the folding method. I’m a college student/librarian who doesn’t often have access to a lot of office supplies or special sized paper, so it’s nice because you don’t need staples or anything else like that, just paper and something to write/draw on it with.

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This PSA is going here because I have read less than ten zines about asexuality and you all should get on it.

—Shapes 

(via ◡‿◡✿)

8th September, 2014

Anonymous asks:

It's the anon from the "how do I tell my partner I am grace" again... He dumped me abruptly for no reason after a really shitty day... And if that's my bad enough, Friday night he found a girl to go home with in front of me. So last night I found out about this... Guess he wanted to have sex after all. So I tried the "casual sex" thing with a friend in a moment if severe weakness last night and I'm just in a really weird and broken place right now.... I don't know really what I'm asking :(

Oh man, I am sorry. I wish there was a magic fix, I really wish there was. How are you feeling about the sex? Are you, well, not okay, but at least more stable?

(My boyfriend broke up with me because I am grey-ace right before Valentine’s Day.)

If you just want someone to talk to, you can come back here off anon and I’ll give you my primary blog or my gmail. I’m always around if you need something.

He clearly made some terrible and cruel choices. That doesn’t make you any less valuable. Please take care of yourself, friend. 

-Not a Can of Soup

Under the cut is cute baby animals, because that’s the closest thing to a hug I can offer.

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7th September, 2014

Pioneer Valley Ace Meetup Sunday, September 28 from 4-6pm

Come meet other folks on the asexual spectrum! Meetups are very casual and social. New people always welcomed (and encouraged) to attend! We will meet on the fourth Sunday of each month, with changing locations. Join us for the first meetup post-summer!
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To make scheduling easier in future, I propose that we schedule our monthly meetups on the fourth Sunday of each month at this time. Of course, people are welcome to continue hanging out past 6 or before 4. I would also like to host these meetings in a student center of each of the five colleges so that we have a kind of tour over the year. I will need help from people on those campuses to coordinate a meeting when the time comes. The order will probably end up being: UMass (Sept), Amherst (Oct), Hampshire (Nov/Dec), Mt Holyoke (Feb), Smith (March) and we can decide where we want the last meeting (April); so if anyone is willing to help I would greatly appreciate it.
I look forward to seeing you at the September meetup on the 28th from 4-6pm in the UMass Student Union!
—Sarah’s message to the Pioneer Valley Aces Meetup List
(posted here by Shapes)